Black, Brown, poor, and trans sex workers absorb most of the stress and violence and are erased constantly. Incel is such a strange word to me. It’s not a term I use often. Like, “cock” and “cuck,” the word incel conjures up a “lone wolf” white boy who sits on 4chan counting his colored and...
Author: Suprihmbé (Suprihmbé )
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SESTA is Yet Another Bill Which Will Harm Sex Workers
SESTA is just another extension of government abuse, not only of sex workers, but of the American people in general. Sex worker Armageddon is upon us. At least that’s how it has felt since the Backpage censorship incident, a campaign spearheaded by Black liberal fave and 2020 presidential candidate, Kamala Harris. FOSTA (H.R. 1865), also...
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Decentering Black Male Paragons During Black History Month
This Black History Month, and really every month, my goal is to decenter cis(het) Black men in favor of uplifting queer Black folks, Black women, and other marginalized or unheard groups within the Black community. During Black History Month we gird ourselves for the inevitable white-centered mentions of Martin Luther King Jr. and his supposedly...
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When We Talk About Grace and Aziz Ansari, We Need to Discuss Emotional Labor Too
Women and femmes learn how to please others, and cisgender men learn to be pleased or to discard us until they are. A Babe dot net article (a site I’d never heard of until a few days ago) broke a story about Aziz Ansari allegedly assaulting a young woman named Grace* and a media frenzy...
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Oprah For President?
Oprah’s speech obviously made a huge impression and once again a Black woman is being called upon to save us from white recklessness/racism. Oprah Winfrey’s Golden Globes award-acceptance speech ignited a fiery debate on social media, as people speculated over whether or not she should run for President. Discussions ranged from complete adoration and reckless...
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We Need To Talk About How Dismantling Net Neutrality Could Impact Sex Workers
Even though we still experience criminalization and discrimination, the internet is a somewhat safe space for many of us, especially important if you are a full service sex worker. In the wake of the FCC vote to repeal Net Neutrality, many of us are wondering where we go from here. Responses to this move range...
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Don’t Touch My Hair: Why Magazines Need Black Hair Stylists & Black Editors
We deserve to be styled by those who take the time to understand our hair textures, and the cultural significance our hair has. From the moment I went Natural I knew that my hair wasn’t the right kind of “natural.” I started transitioning in 2007, except back then, Natural hair wasn’t popping as hard as...
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Why Social Media Sites Soft-Banning Sex Workers Matters
Sex workers are already criminalized, and these vague, underhanded policies are usually just the beginning. Last week there was yet another uproar about a social media site updating its ad policy — this time it was Twitter and not too long ago, Patreon did something similar. Many vanilla (non-sex worker) Twitter users response was to make...
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Portraying Violent White Men As Lone Wolves Ignores the Real Issues
Painting white boys and men as lone wolves has become a tradition of its own. Men don’t want to be seen as violent or toxic, and they don’t want to address sexism and misogyny. “I knew he had to be Black. I said it: You can tell this is a [redacted] because ain’t no rhyme...
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Forget Hugh Hefner, Learn About These Pornographers & Activists Instead
Here is a comprehensive list of pornographers, sex positive feminists and pleasure activists to focus on instead of that dead misogynist. So, Hugh Hefner is finally dead and a few people are mourning him on my timeline, waxing poetic about the greatness of Playboy and casually dismissing his misogyny and the claims of abuse lodged...