Masturbation, more than any other sex act, is a time to be completely selfish and all about yourself. May is here, which means that it is finally National Masturbation Month! You may have seen the memes or innuendo-laced content swirling around social media, but this month is more important than you may know. Masturbation Month...
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Navigating Desire In The Wake of #MeToo
We have important steps to take in learning about desire, consent and pleasure-based sexual experiences in the wake of #MeToo. [TW: this piece contains discussions of #MeToo and sexual violence in varying forms.] Started almost ten years ago by Tarana Burke, #MeToo has spread (and in some ways, been co-opted) and become synonymous of the large-scale...
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#AskCam: Why You Should Embrace Sex Resolutions For 2018
What sex resolutions are you dedicating to making for yourself this year? The new year is upon us, and there’s something about this time of year that has a particular magic to it. The start of the year offers the chance for so many beginnings. Everywhere we look, we see reminders to drink more water,...
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#AskCam: How Do I Explore Kink Without Feeling Ashamed?
Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together. Dear Cam, I’m exploring my sexuality and experimenting with different kinks, but I’m getting kind of worried about the kinds of things that I’ve been interested in. I’m not hurting anyone or anything, but some of the things that I find...
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Ask Cam: Navigating Emotional Labor and Anti-Blackness in Relationships
Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together. Dear Cam, I’m not quite sure how to navigate this. I have a white partner (we’re polyam) and I feel like he gives his white partners more space, patience, and consideration to feel insecure or needing validation to feel safe in a...
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#AskCam: How Do I Juggle My Non-Monogamous Relationships?
Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together. Dear Cam, How do I go on dates with other cuties when I don’t even have time to go on dates with my wife? When any “taking time” feels more like “stealing time”, how the hell do you prioritize? -Not Enough...
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AskCam: Polyamory, Non-Monogamy, Oh My!
Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together. Dear Cam, I’m seeing polyamory and non-monogamy hyped up a lot in media, and it seems awesome, but how do I know it’s for me? Growing up, I only ever saw relationships being between two people, but I’ve never felt ~quite~...
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#AskCam: Decolonizing Desire And Desirability
Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together. Dear Cam, Am I a bad Black person for being in a relationship with someone who’s white? I feel like with everything going on in the world, it’s almost looked down upon that I have a white partner. How can I...
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#AskCam: Celibacy Is A Valid Choice
Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together. Dear Cam, I’ve always been a sexual person, but I haven’t been dating in the last few months because of life – school, work, family, that kind of thing. Because of this, I’ve been unintentionally celibate for a few months, and...
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#AskCam: How To Own Your Sexuality
Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together. Cam, I’m interested to hear your thoughts on manifesting and channeling your sexuality in a positive way. How to own your own sexuality and confidence without succumbing to extremes? -Spiritually Sensual Spiritually Sensual, This question got me really excited with its...