My body is the beautiful, celibate temple that it was destined to be. Aromantic moments happen, but my truest gratification comes in many forms. This essay contains discussions of sexual violence and mentions molestation By Janyce Denise Glasper “You’re going to make someone very happy one day,” a friend said often, so often that this...
Category: Summer of Sex
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The Ritual of Taking Nude Photos For Myself Helped Me Reclaim My Body
Taking nude photos of myself gave me a sense of empowerment in reclaiming my body for myself only, shifting the power from my rapists back to me. By Chaney Williams This essay contains discussions of sexual assault and emotional abuse and mentions r/pe My relationship with taking nude photos has gone from being laced with...
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How Kink Helped Me With Gender Dysphoria As A Non-Binary Person
Kink granted me the bodily autonomy I needed—I didn’t have to be an object of fetish or ridicule, I could be sexy on my own terms. By E Young The first time I had sex as a teen I was relieved that someone found me desirable. I know now that it was an all-too-typical case of...
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Video: Fatphobia Is Not a Sexual Preference by Sonalee Rashatwar
Sexual preferences are not hardwired, they are socially ingrained ideas that we ingest and rarely question. By Sonalee Rashatwar TW/CW: The following video transcript and audio contain mentions of fatphobia, dieting, and trauma. Transcript: Hi! My name is Sonalee Rashatwar, I use she and they pronouns because I identify as non-binary and I’m popularly known...
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The Road to Polyamory: How CBD Helped Me Interrogate Feelings of Jealousy and Insecurity
Embracing polyamory, I feel blessed with how much more love I’m able to experience. Does the wanting ever go away? I don’t know. By Shelly Rose In the winter of 2015, at 19-years-old, I sat at my aunt’s kitchen island in Bountiful, Utah. We had developed a close bond after we discovered that we had...
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The Case for New Erotic Language
In acknowledging that our erotic language could be more expansive and continuing with this practice of language creation, we need new words. By Dalychia Saah There were so many words used to describe what I could expect for my first penetrative experience with a penis. “It’s going to feel like your lungs are collapsing and...
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Fat Black Women Deserve Fulfilling, Enjoyable Sex Without Compromise
I want other fat, Black women to feel like they don’t have to settle as many of us are taught to. I want dignity during my dicking, quality in my quivering, and consideration in my cumming. This essay contains mention of sexual assault By Ashleigh Nicole Tribble “When I get a boyfriend, I’m going to...
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Navigating Fetishism as a Queer, Non-Binary, Black Sex Worker
If I didn’t manage so well to adhere to the image of the hung, dominant, rough, and forceful “Mandingo,” I would not have nearly half as many clients. By Cosima Smith Many Black people and other POC are well-versed in the exchange of their fetishized identities for their livelihoods and livability. As a sex-worker, I...
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Wild Flower Sex is a Lesson in White Abuse of Power
The callout to Wild Flower is an example of what many Black sexuality professionals face in the field. And more, what Wild Flower Sex did was not accidental, or a one-time mistake. Content Note: This piece contains discussion of anti-Black violence, misogynoir, sexual violence (assault and rape), sex work. Please read at your own discretion....
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Karmenife X On Healing Through Being a Dominatrix and Subverting White Supremacy
There is nothing shameful about your kink, there is nothing shameful about your fetish, but there is something so disgustingly shameful about not paying sex workers. TW/CW: The following video transcript and audio contain mentions of sexual assault By Karmenife X “My name is Karmenife X, but your dad probably knows me as Goddess Madame...