I’m not here to be a whiny, woe-is-me queer. I live in hella gay Oaktown, am in a loving relationship with a woman, and generally feel safe and accepted about my sexuality. I don’t have much to complain about. But there are still ignorant, infuriating straight people out there who have asked me some ridiculous things over the years. From...

  During college, other queers often told me I was a femme and I would get all indignant, as college-aged queers tend to do. Don’t tell me how I identify! My gender is fluid and I may look girly sometimes but I ain’t no femme. It took me a few years before I figured out that I am: Femme. As. Fuck....

  Y’all, there are so many lesbian myths out there that I had to do a second article about them. Even in our supposedly progressive, enlightened times of 2014 Bay Area life, many stereotypes persist. There may be a nugget of truth in some of them, but we are not all scissoring, hairy, humorless dykes. Some of us are just...

It’s Pride weekend, which is basically Gay Christmas, with glitter and dancing instead of garlands and family quarrels. I’m pumped to celebrate this weekend because I am a big queer dyke, but I’m not really proud of it. I’m also not ashamed of or disappointed by my queerness. I love being gay, but it’s not something I achieved or accomplished, just...

Oakland is Full of Queers: Let’s Find Each Other When you are of the queer persuasion, it is slightly more complicated to meet love interests than it is for straight people. There are fewer queers than non-queers in the world, and you can’t always be sure if someone is a homo, or just a straight person with really fabulous style. Sometimes you even lust after...