Welcome to #AskCam, a column where sex and intersectionality are not divided but welcomed together. Dear Cam, How exactly do I address consent in casual relationship settings? If I’m in a longer-standing relationship, I’m not embarrassed or ashamed to talk about literally any topic….but if I go on one date with someone and I’m...
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Dear Virgie: What is the Best Piece of Professional Advice You’ve Gotten?
Thanks to one great piece of advice, I have been saved from doing a lot of emotional and physical labor that would have discouraged me and possibly hurt my career. Dear Virgie, What is the best piece of professional advice you’ve ever gotten? Dear friend: I can easily tell you the best piece of professional advice...
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Dear Virgie: I Wanna Ask Out a Queer Fat Girl. Help?
“I have a crush on this fat babe who’s an acquaintance. I’ve never dated a girl before. I’m worried I will be a weirdo who’s co-opting queerness.” Dear Virgie: I have a crush on this fat babe who’s an acquaintance. I’ve dated fat people before (I’m fat too), but have never dated a girl before. I...
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Everything’s the Worst: 5 Self-Care Acts to Distract You From the World for 10 Minutes
Happy New Year! Lots of folks are pointing out that time is an arbitrary construct, and nothing really changes with a new year. But lots of things are going to change this year. Like, a racist, fascist reality-show star with no government experience who brags about sexually assaulting women is going to take the highest...
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10 Things I Wish I’d Known When I was 16
At 16, I couldn’t wait to be an adult. I wanted to be taken seriously and I couldn’t wait to “grow up,” have my own place and have a career. The past 17 years have flown by in the blink of an eye. Now I am older and somewhat wiser. But there are things I...