My body is the beautiful, celibate temple that it was destined to be. Aromantic moments happen, but my truest gratification comes in many forms. This essay contains discussions of sexual violence and mentions molestation By Janyce Denise Glasper “You’re going to make someone very happy one day,” a friend said often, so often that this...
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When Incarcerated People Strike, The World Should Listen And Respond
Without mass actions like the current nationwide prison strike, which bring direct awareness to the issue, these stories go largely underreported. Note: Due to the safety of the incarcerated individuals, some names were changed to allow anonymity. We speak carefully on the phone, fully aware that anything said can become grounds to get him sent...
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How Myths and False Assumptions are Still Making Sexual Assault Hard to Report
The assumption that most sexual assault victims lie has been proven false and this fact has been known for quite some time. Yet, the toxic notion still prevails. Since late last year we have heard women and men come forward with their experiences with harassment and sexual assault as part of #MeToo, a movement started...
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When We Talk About Grace and Aziz Ansari, We Need to Discuss Emotional Labor Too
Women and femmes learn how to please others, and cisgender men learn to be pleased or to discard us until they are. A Babe dot net article (a site I’d never heard of until a few days ago) broke a story about Aziz Ansari allegedly assaulting a young woman named Grace* and a media frenzy...
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Aziz Ansari is Not Emmett Till, Nor the Straw Man of Asian American Masculinity
Let’s interrogate the politic of comparing Aziz Ansari to Emmett Till. A storm of articles has appeared over the last 48 hours regarding the account published by Babe magazine on the disturbing encounter between Aziz Ansari and a young woman who, in the account, is simply called “Grace.” A large majority of these articles, particularly...
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How to Prevent Pregnancy When Your Abuser is Using Reproductive Coercion
[Content warning: Mentions of intimate partner violence.] Note: Most of this information is more specific to folks with vaginas, since most forms of birth control are designed for them. However, if you are a person with a penis, at least one of these methods will work for you. Many people know the various forms of abuse that can...