Singles experience more prejudice and discrimination from society at large than most are willing to recognize or admit, especially coupled people who benefit from it. This essay contains spoilers for The Lobster (2015) and briefly mentions sexual assault and suicide Bisexuality is no longer an option. Guests of the hotel must register themselves as either...
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My Mom Won’t Leave My Abusive Father and I Still Love and Miss Her
I’m learning to acknowledge the love that I still feel for my mom, even if it is technically in conflict with my palpable resentment of her. TW/CW: this essay discusses family trauma and mentions emotional and physical abuse. May is an extremely weird and emotionally painful month for me. On one hand, while spring started...
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Honoring Queerplatonic Relationships To Better Honor Ourselves
There is a whole world of possibility to be found in queerplatonic relationships. We do not have to, nor should we, stifle ourselves or our capacity for variant, multifaceted expressions of love. By Sherronda J. Brown Throughout my life, many things and people have worked to convince me that my lack of interest in or...
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Re-Learning Radical Softness and My Capacity to Love
I used to believe that displaying any kind of vulnerability—particularly love, which I believe to be the pinnacle of radical softness—meant getting hurt. By Clarkisha Kent Trauma has made me a cold bitch. There are no ifs, ands, or buts about it. Being raised by ultra-strict [Nigerian] parents meant that no iteration of softness was...
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To Love and To Be Loved From The Fat Perspective
This is my personal reckoning with the idea that I may never see love in the way that I want to, but also that anyone who reads this has the ability to change that. By Da’Shaun Harrison I lay awake at night thinking deeply about love. What it means to love someone romantically and how...
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Love: A Dish Unpleasant Without All The Ingredients
Love is a journey. And just because it did not exist in one moment does not mean it never can. The perfect dish takes practice, time, and skill. One of my favorite songs growing up was “God Favored Me” by Hezekiah Walker, inspired by 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. The start of the first verse of that...
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Disabled And In Love With Me: The Ableds’ Worst Nightmare
I am not blithely grateful for poor treatment and I won’t accept the bare-minimum of accessibility and inclusion. My love for myself is revolutionary. This essay contains discussions of ableism and self-harm By Imani Barbarin I was 10 when I first came across the concept of inspiration porn. I didn’t know what to call it,...
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We Cannot Demand That Robyn Crawford Separate Herself From Whitney Houston
Robyn Crawford deserves to have the space to share how much she loved Whitney Houston. We cannot demand that once-closeted queer folks never speak of their relationships. By Vanessa Taylor By default of being human, there is not an aspect of our lives that exists in complete separation from anyone else. Our stories are tangled...
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Europe Won’t Rescue the Hearts of Black Women, Here’s Why
European monarchies built and waged their power upon our deaths and our blood. Within this context, how could we possibly expect them to value Blackness? By Nneka M. Okona Some months ago, I was comfy and settled on my couch awaiting that week’s episode of “Real Housewives of Atlanta”. I had a glass of wine...
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Self-Love is About the Journey, Not the Destination
Committing to self-love whispered quietly in your mind is all you need to ground yourself in the work. Self-love is a term that’s honestly gotten a bad rep. Maybe it’s from buzzing around social media for so long without committing to the work of unpacking what it really means, but there’s a lot of confusion...