I’m learning to acknowledge the love that I still feel for my mom, even if it is technically in conflict with my palpable resentment of her. TW/CW: this essay discusses family trauma and mentions emotional and physical abuse. May is an extremely weird and emotionally painful month for me. On one hand, while spring started...
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Dear Virgie: My Mom Hates Her Body
To be honest, self-love — like, the real kind, not the slogan kind — threatens literally EVERYTHING that white supremacist heteropatriarchy is about. Dear Virgie, Do you have advice for someone whose mom really hates herself? I often feel super guilty that I just happened to be born into the generation that got to be...
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Dear Virgie: My Mom’s A Feminist — And a Fatphobe
Dear Virgie, My mom identifies as an intersectional feminist, but she is constantly talking about my weight and how disappointed she is that I have gained weight over the years. She totally “gets” so many political issues that affect women, but she has a blind spot when it comes to her own fatphobia. Do you...
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Dear Virgie: My BF’s Mom is a Fatphobe
Dear Virgie, My boyfriend’s mom calls and emails him about diet and weight-loss tips just about every day. I just found out about it and I was super pissed. I really want to confront her and let her know how I feel. Is that appropriate? What would you do? Hey friend: Whoa. That is super...