From Lucille Bogan in the 1930s to Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion today, Black women have long celebrated their sexuality. Hess Love’s “Heauxin’ Blues” playlist proves this. Black sexuality has been celebrated in song for generations. Suffice it to say, we been talking about, singing about, rapping about fucking. However, many “respectable” Black folks...
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“Ace And Aro People Are Just Straight” Is A Heteronormative Lie
Listen to ace and aro folks when we share our stories, and recognize that others’ inability or unwillingness to see the truth of our experiences does not define or erase us. TW/CW: This essay mentions sexual violence, r/pe, death threats, and suicide It’s always interesting to me when queer allos confidently make the claim that...
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How Cannabis Can Improve Your Sex Life If You Live With Chronic Pain
Everybody’s favorite green plant can help disabled people and those with chronic pain find intimacy with the comfort and pleasure they deserve. By Mari “Dev” Ramsawakh I’m a disabled person who deals with chronic pain. I also love sex. What I don’t love is pain, but it’s something that I have to endure every day....
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How Cannabis Eased My Pain And Led Me To A Fulfilling Sex Life
After years of dealing with endometriosis and PCOS pain and navigating opioid-based painkillers, cannabis finally helped me find a way to live again. (Content note and disclaimer: this piece briefly mentions sexual assault and addresses medical themes. The article occasionally uses gendered language because the studies referenced on endometriosis and PCOS pain only include or...
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What A Sex Resort Taught Me About Shame
It took a few days at the resort to remember that sex doesn’t devalue me and is, in fact, something that adds value to my life. By Gabrielle Noel Last summer, while my friends were on baecations, I traveled with a group of sex writers to “the world’s most iconic adult playground.” Hedonism II, or...
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Tamar Braxton and Cishet Black Women’s Complicated Relationships to Queer Black People
Tamar’s statement goes beyond harming cishet men, it opens up a particular kind of violence against Queer Black people. This essay contains discussions of sexual violence and r/pe culture Recently, recording artist and television personality, Tamar Braxton, made a post on her Instagram story where she essentially claims that the one and only reason a...
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Between My Thighs Is All Mine: A Journey To Accepting My Asexual Identity
My body is the beautiful, celibate temple that it was destined to be. Aromantic moments happen, but my truest gratification comes in many forms. This essay contains discussions of sexual violence and mentions molestation By Janyce Denise Glasper “You’re going to make someone very happy one day,” a friend said often, so often that this...
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How Kink Helped Me With Gender Dysphoria As A Non-Binary Person
Kink granted me the bodily autonomy I needed—I didn’t have to be an object of fetish or ridicule, I could be sexy on my own terms. By E Young The first time I had sex as a teen I was relieved that someone found me desirable. I know now that it was an all-too-typical case of...
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The State of Fat Representation in Sex: A Weekend at The Sex Expo
Not seeing fat people represented sends a message that fat bodies aren’t desirable. That couldn’t be further from the truth. By Mayra Mejia Let’s face it. Most of us (consenting, adult) fat folks have and enjoy sex. But oftentimes in the sex industry, the only plus-size representation is presented as a fetish. While fetishes can...
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Video: Fatphobia Is Not a Sexual Preference by Sonalee Rashatwar
Sexual preferences are not hardwired, they are socially ingrained ideas that we ingest and rarely question. By Sonalee Rashatwar TW/CW: The following video transcript and audio contain mentions of fatphobia, dieting, and trauma. Transcript: Hi! My name is Sonalee Rashatwar, I use she and they pronouns because I identify as non-binary and I’m popularly known...