In 2009 I unexpectedly fell pregnant with triplets. It was a huge shock. I wasn’t ready. I was in a very unhealthy relationship and had actually planned to leave my (now ex-)partner before I found out I was pregnant. I had planned to travel and wanted to change careers. I put all those plans to...
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It’s Not Always Oppression Olympics; Sometimes Social Justice Must Be Urgent
“There is no hierarchy of oppression. […] There is no such thing as a single-issue struggle, because we do not live single-issue lives.” –Audre Lorde Last summer, I attended a national gathering of activists and artists from around the country. In a session on building solidarity across transgender and gender non-conforming communities of color, a...
Overcoming The Trauma of An Abortion
Three and a half years ago, I was a total wreck. After six months of constant sex, fighting and heartbreak, my boyfriend ASL had finally broken up with me. I had been clinging onto a toxic relationship for three months too long because I had fallen deeply in love with someone who could not love...
Living With Anxiety: How Kindness Can Help
By Miss Evelyn-Jo Anxiety is overwhelming. Say you’re able to find relief through resources like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which is a useful tool to reduce anxiety. You start feeling “back to normal” and get on with your life. But then, often with no warning, anxiety can return. And when it gets its claws into...
Overcoming Trauma When You’ve Had a Miscarriage
By: Miss Evelyn-Jo How do you learn to cope when experiencing such an emotional and traumatic experience? Can you overcome it? Can you learn to live again when a life you had planned is taken away from you? In 2010, I experienced one of the most horrific and life changing experiences anyone can go through. I...
7 Ways To Curb Depression During the Holidays
Oooh, the holidays. Everyone full of joy and cheer. Holiday-themed music blasting on radio stations since the day after Black Friday. Television specials about the meaning of Christmas/Chanukah/Kwanzaa, gatherings. And, trauma. Yes, you read right. Trauma. For persons suffering from mental illness, trauma and depression are two of the most common things intersecting with one another...