Singles experience more prejudice and discrimination from society at large than most are willing to recognize or admit, especially coupled people who benefit from it. This essay contains spoilers for The Lobster (2015) and briefly mentions sexual assault and suicide Bisexuality is no longer an option. Guests of the hotel must register themselves as either...
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I Wish I’d Spent More Time With My Friends Before The Pandemic
This pandemic has made me realize how much I took my friends for granted while searching for romance. I never would’ve thought that my craving for platonic touch could be more intense than the erotic. By Love Akinkunle The last person I hugged is a man whose number I don’t even have saved anymore. We...
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Honoring Queerplatonic Relationships To Better Honor Ourselves
There is a whole world of possibility to be found in queerplatonic relationships. We do not have to, nor should we, stifle ourselves or our capacity for variant, multifaceted expressions of love. By Sherronda J. Brown Throughout my life, many things and people have worked to convince me that my lack of interest in or...
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Asexual Is Queer And Gatekeeping Is Not Liberation
Asexuality would also be better understood if we expanded and reformed our understanding of queerness itself. “Pursuing an understanding of queerness as an absence of or an aversion to sex might include figures deemed unnatural for their lack of a natural desire—a host of saints, dandies, frigid women, isolated children, and awkward teens. Although the...
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Fat Black Women Deserve Fulfilling, Enjoyable Sex Without Compromise
I want other fat, Black women to feel like they don’t have to settle as many of us are taught to. I want dignity during my dicking, quality in my quivering, and consideration in my cumming. This essay contains mention of sexual assault By Ashleigh Nicole Tribble “When I get a boyfriend, I’m going to...
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Romance Novels to Read During the Age of #MeToo
#MeToo is challenging mainstream society to critically examine long-held assumptions about sexual scripts and femme pleasure. By Michelle Carroll Lately it feels like it’s nearly impossible to go a single day without hearing a viral story of sexual violence. And of course, this is a good thing. Finally the pain and shame that was previously...
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Romance is Not Universal, Nor is it Necessary.
As sexist and misogynistic as it is heteronormative, this inordinate value placed on romance and marriage is consistently used to devalue single and unmarried women, painting us as inherently unworthy and pathetic, too difficult and too picky. Romance is not universal, or necessary. However, due to the way that romance has been heralded as a...
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Our Ideas of Romance Are Abusive
We are not allowed to hold someone emotionally hostage until they give us what we want, forcing them to swallow their own feelings, desires, and needs in order to satisfy our own. That’s not romance. That’s abuse. This year, Vulture declared that the grand romantic gesture will never die. It’s become such a popular trope...
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Crazy Talk: Can Mentally Ill People Be In (Healthy) Relationships Together?
It’s an ableist assumption that people with mental health struggles can’t be together — it suggests that only neurotypical people are “good” at relationships. Welcome to Crazy Talk: a mental health advice column written by yours truly, a mentally ill and queer writer reclaiming his “crazy” to educate and empower. In a world that tries to...
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Astrology for Feminists: How Venus Retrograde Will Shake Things Up
Venus will be retrograde this time in Aries, making us particularly restless, quick-tempered and hasty. We may be want to explore where the “grass is greener.” Venus, the planet that astrologically rules love, beauty and money, will be retrograde until April 15. What does this mean for us and our partners, lovers and paychecks? The Mystical...